David F Khalili LMFT | Sex & relationship therapist, author, speaker & consultant

David F. Khalili, MA, LMFT

Welcome!

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a focus on working with men, adolescents, couples therapy, and multi-ethnic individuals. I received my Masters degree in Counseling Psychology from Golden Gate University and a Masters degree in Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University. During graduate school I completed my practicum internship at UCSF AIDS Health Project, followed by a post-graduate psychodynamic intensive program at The Psychotherapy Institute. I also have extensive experience working with teenagers, as well as with those experiencing grief, trauma and substance abuse issues. I also specialize in working with multi-ethnic individuals and those who have immigrated recently or are first-generation American born.

Issues I have focused on include, but are not limited to:

• Sex and Sexuality

• Sex and anxiety

• Polyamory, Open Relationships and Kink

• Sexual Disorders

• Accessing Emotions

• Trauma/PTSD

• Men’s Groups

I focus on helping you improve your insight and awareness on how you relate to yourself and your life in order to help reach the goals you desire. 

Studies show that the key to effective therapy is the person's relationship with the therapist. Set up a consultation to find if we are a good fit.

Contact me to set up a free 20 minute phone consultation.

Education:

• MA in Sexuality Studies, San Francisco State University, 2008

• MA in Counseling Psychology, Golden Gate University, 2011

Training:

• UCSF AIDS Health Project, San Francisco, 2011

• The Psychotherapy Institute, Berkeley, CA, 2013

• Longfellow Middle School, Berkeley, CA, 2013

• Berkeley Technology Academy, Berkeley, CA, 2015

• Completed Level 1 Training Gottman Method Couples Therapy, 2018

• Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, 2019

• Competed Level 1 Relational Life Therapy for Couples, 2020

• Institute for Relational Intimacy, 2021

Graduate-Level Instruction:

• Lecturer at San Francisco State University Counseling Psychology Masters of Science Program, Spring 2019 & 2020

  • COUN 859 - Counseling Aspects of Sexuality

  • COUN 827 - The Consultation Process

Affiliations:

• The Psychotherapy Institute, Berkeley, CA

• Bay Area Open Minds

• California Association Marriage and Family Therapists

• Northern California Society for Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy

Press Mentions:

• Sex Therapists Reveal What They Get Asked the Most (Reader's Digest, 2018)

• Should I Have an Open Marriage? (POPSugar, 2018)

• Is Online Therapy as Effective as In-Person Therapy? (Vice, 2018)

• 7 Common Relationship 'Rules' That Actually Tend to Lead to Divorce (Elite Daily, 2018)

• Everything You Need to Know Before Moving in With Your SO (Rally, 2018)

• Questions About Sex - What Sex Therapists Get Asked the Most (Well For Joy)

• 9 Best Suction Cup Dildos (Glamour, 2021)

• 12 Ways You’re Giving Off a Bad Vibe (Readers Digest, 2021)

Publications

Khalili, D.F. (2013). Case Study. Javier: HIV-Focused Psychotherapy. In D. Maller, K. Langsam, & M.J. Fritchle. The Praeger Handbook of Community Mental Health Practices. 1: Working in the Local Community. (pp. 120-124). Santa Barbara: Praeger. 

Past Speaking Engagements

• UCSF Alliance Health Project

• The Psychotherapy Institute

• Wright Institute

• UC Berkeley

• New Bridge Foundation